Fear is a Thief

Fear is a Thief
Photo Beijing 2009 By Mary Dessein

Fear is a thief.

I remember reading that on a tee shirt as a young adult, thinking it was rather clever. Yet, I had no idea the power of that statement. And it’s connection to change. Change: cleaning out the closet of the clothes I haven’t worn in five years to a new haircut to ending an unhealthy relationship. Yeah, change.

What’s all the fuss people make about not liking change? That speaks to our brittleness: we are afraid we’ll break if we change. Break our comfort zone, break our habits, break our closed minds. The egg is not much good inside the shell either.

Fear crowds to the front of the line and says, “Here, I’ll make that decision for you.”

Fear and caution are two different things: staying off the railroad tracks when we hear the train whistle, looking both ways before we cross the street, calling 911 when we see flames next door are appropriate caution responses. When fear tries to boss us around, it wants us to live small, to be less than we can be.

After 16+ years, ‘Global Griot: stories & music from around the world,’ the radio show I have co-hosted and loved, ran its course. A new show has surfaced: The Writery with Mary Dessein. What? Change! Why?

My mentor and friend, Marcia Glendenning, used to tell me, “You’re either growing or you’re rotting, there is no staying the same.” Change is moving me forward when I had become comfortable. Change is teaching me new skills when I knew how to do what I’d always done. Change is keeping me resilient when I was getting rigid around the edges.

The Writery with Mary Dessein will be available on www.kser.org in the listings of the SoundCloud, right under the banner photo, hopefully around the end of April.

Thanks to Jon, The Writery has a Facebook page. www.facebook.com/thewritery
Check us out – so many stories, so little time!

4 Comments

  • Naomi Baltuck

    April 3, 2015 at 11:25 pm

    Great post, Mary, and an important reminder. Best wishes as you strike out on an exciting new path. So glad you are sharing the journey with us!

  • Mary Dessein

    April 5, 2015 at 4:15 am

    Thank you Naomi — and back at your for so beautifully sharing your journeys.

  • Mary Buckham

    April 6, 2015 at 4:55 pm

    Love this thought – When fear tries to boss us around, it wants us to be live small, to be less than we can be. Brilliant! Way to shake off the rind and re-engage in the world in a new way. All the best with your adventures!

    • Mary

      April 8, 2015 at 4:22 am

      Thank you much, Mary! We’ll have an adventure in common when you get back. Best to you as well.